tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2423827822739128743.post6154375519846891294..comments2023-05-08T06:11:50.575-04:00Comments on Eboo Works, Saves, Knits,and Lives: Impostor SyndromeAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06470492772543904048noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2423827822739128743.post-32963870964918356512011-10-12T13:36:14.319-04:002011-10-12T13:36:14.319-04:00this is a really interesting concept...i'm loo...this is a really interesting concept...i'm looking forward to reading your follow up tomorrow.Jessiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11259285806446208884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2423827822739128743.post-34091697748038596942011-10-12T08:50:34.384-04:002011-10-12T08:50:34.384-04:00I feel that way all of the time. Others that I wo...I feel that way all of the time. Others that I work with feel that way to an extent too. I had a very wry, ready for retirement co-worker always say to the new people "Just fake it till you make it honey!"<br />I hear the same critical voices whenever I feel out of my comfort zone. (Not a very big zone I promise you) <br />Was it growing up hearing that I lazy and useless? Booksmart, but can't boil a pot of water, no man would ever want a girl like me, and far worse. When I was a child/teenager I believed what my parents said I was. And now in moments of weakness I still hear them. So very stupid because I have become 10 times the person that either of them could ever be.<br />It is a internal battle Eboo that I think many women fight daily. Sometimes you feel that sense of imposter taking over and somedays you are stong enough to beat it down.<br />I don't know when a woman will believe her own awesomeness. I still don't have an inside that matches what I've accomplished on the outside.B-Kathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11235470014295888935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2423827822739128743.post-61239510633333284512011-10-12T08:18:28.882-04:002011-10-12T08:18:28.882-04:00April, you are NOT alone. I could have written th...April, you are NOT alone. I could have written that entire post. I FEEL that way too, about my career, about being a mother and wife, about being a daughter and friend. I'm afraid people will figure it out, that I'm not actually as good as I might appear on the surface. I don't like to talk too much because I don't want to sound stupid or child-like. I fear that my opinions will be challenged and I won't be able to defend my position, which will make me look even dumber. And I sometimes hear my mother's critical voice ringing through my head too, telling me to "get my head out of the clouds", "stop trying so hard to get a guy", "clean my house", "cut my hair", "stop wasting money on nonsense". It makes me feel like a total failure at life. I fight that inner feeling every day of my life. I think it's what keep me from feeling joy and contentment.<br />~ Makky's MomAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2423827822739128743.post-75549269725814968732011-10-12T06:49:39.431-04:002011-10-12T06:49:39.431-04:00"People who feel like imposters often have hi..."People who feel like imposters often have high, unrealistic expectations of themselves, perfectionist issues, and the conviction that they shouldn't be struggling at all."<br />That's me to a T. <br />When I was in teacher's college I wrote an essay that showed that boys were the "elite" in every classroom and girls had to work twice as hard to get their teacher's attention.<br />Not only that but my own mother clearly preferred her two sons to her three daughters. <br />I really think it is a gender issue with women having to strive 10 times harder to earn 1/10th of recognized accomplishments.<br />I know there are very confident women out there - perhaps the younger generation will not face the same challenges or feel as inferior as we have.<br />As a teacher I've often felt like I'm an imposter, that I'm not doing a good job, that everyone wonders what the hell I'm doing in the position I'm in.<br />You've hit a nerve here Eboo, and it's a topic we need to face up to and explore more. <br />I was one of the female bloggers who was unable to write about her own awesomeness. Just the thought makes me uncomfortable.Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02803104035204416080noreply@blogger.com